Not really sure why, but I have planned not to celebrate or think about Valentines day today. But through out the day, the images and words my eyes were bombarded with got me thinking about it. The little girl Lila that leaves next door was carrying a heart shaped ballon was the first image of it this morning. Only in the afternoon I learn my word of the day, cordate, which means heart shaped which made me think of Lila’s baloon. But it was just later, when biking back from the gym, I saw a quote of John Lennon about love. I started thinking about valentines day again and the definition of love. But the sun was feeling good in my skin with the wind and decided to drop the mental work for that moment just enjoy the feeling of it, without much philosophy. As I finish my work and get ready for dinner, my closing thought for the evening is that beyond candle light dinners, teddy bears and boxes of chocolate what really matter is the dream of love, the pursuit of it. Whatever variation or definition we give to love, the existance of this instinct, almost as strong as the survival one, is capable of launching us on the most amazing adventures and experiences. Forrest Gump once said: “I’m not a smart man… but I know what love is.” Since Mr. Gump was very happy with everyone around him, he probably knew what I have learned recently in my study of aloha: “To Love is to Be Happy With”.
Over the weekend I had the opportunity, for the first time in 11 years of America to truly celebrate Martin Luther King’s birthday. To freedom and in freedom, I danced, I loved, I was human, perfectly human. Beyond the physical constraints that one day held my ancestors in slave ships from Congo to deep south of the gold mines in Minas Gerais, Brazil, today I claim my freedom from all things that kept me from loving myself and celebrating my full potential in life. On a weekend of amazing discoveries and adventures, I start my work week with the thought that what “link” us together is stronger that what separate us physically, mentally and spirituality. Dreaming has been my personal principle since at the age of 16, I first read Fernando Pessoa defining Dreaming as a duty. Below is my favorite part of the speech that danced to this pas weekend. Thanks to everyone that helps to keep the dream alive!
“I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.”
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood.
I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of injustice, sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today!” (Martin Luther king)
My favorite John Lennon song is Love. In it he uses very simple words to define love and in one of them he says that “love is free”. Defining the word love is a very complex job. You can personally see that struggle in how Wikipedia tries to be fair to the word and ends up making it a big salad of meanings. I was once in love with somebody and I realized that the person no longer held their eyes open when we were making love. I knew the other person loved me, but not the way I loved. I wanted to be everyday, partnership, in health and sickness type of love. The other part wanted it to be loving friendship and physical pleasure. At the time, it bothered me to observe it. Later on, I decided to withdraw myself from it to protect my own sanity. This morning i had an interesting insight while napping in the bus some minutes ago. I dreamt making love to him again. But this time, I said: “Open your eyes. Don’t be afraid of reading love in my eyes. Love is not slavery. Love is freedom. Let’s let it set us free and grow beyond this physical moment to where time and space cannot constrain it.”
The photo below was taken yesterday with my sweet pitbull Cuca. Interesting how yesterday’s moment preceded my dream this morning.
When we arrived back in Brazil last week, the biggest challenge was that my mother would keep the aloha spirit and the treatment progressing well. She has done great so far. Beside the beautiful rain, our garden here in brazil is lush and full of fruits, mangos and grapes. A gift to keep our hawaiian experience alive. This morning, mom showed me that one of the orchids seed we bought in Hawaii just got its first leaf, beautiful and green. Let our people flourish and bloom with nature!
I just read the quote below from the Internet. It reminded me of a Stewart Blackburn’s talk. When you blame someone for something that happen to you, you put in their hands the power to decide your own happiness.
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter
how much fault you find with another,
and regardless of how much you
blame him, it will not change you”
– Wayne Dyer
Eu acabei de ler o pensamento abaixo na Internet. Uma conversa com Stewart Blackburn veio na minha mente naquele instante. Quando culpamos outros for algo que acontece conosco, nós colocamos nas mão deles o poder de decidir a nossa felicidade.
“Toda culpa é uma perda de tempo. Não importa quantos defeitos você acha no outro, e independente do quanto você o culpa, nada mudará para você” (Wayne Dyer)
We are approaching about 2 full weeks of my mother’s alternative therapies in Hawaii. My observations is that the path to healing is building an environment of love, happiness and positive thinking. As I talk to her about the practices to achieve inner piece and happiness by changing the way she relates to the disease and how she deals with pain and life’s adversities, I convince myself that healing is possible. She is sleeping every night and the chronicle pain has reduced by at least 50%. Mom has been doing daily meditations, eating very healthy and seeing Mr Stewart’s for healing thru self-love and joy, Jud for acupuncture practices and Sarah for Watsu.
As I start this new adventure with my parents to Hawaii, I stop for a minute and meditate on the intentions.
So that there is mutual learning and spiritual growth, that the healing that comes from our self understanding transcend our beings into a better world. I intend for good health, peace and tranquility for us that embark in this trip and to our relatives that stays in brazil.
So that our bond is made stronger and that with my parents we grow together into younger spirits, detached from our metal boundaries that stays in between our mind and bodies.
With my friend Glenn I was discussing my current life moment when I focus on learning what it takes to be a man. Wisely, he reflects back at me and extends the focus by doing one simple change “what it takes to be a free man!”
The photo below is part of the art installation in the sidewalk in North. With another great friend, Ishac, we searched for a good word! The “answer” reminded me the importance of freedom and reborn in our lives.
I was having lunch the interns today at the office and answering my question one of them told me that their favorite photographer Mario Testino.
– “Is he Gay?”, one of them asked.
– “No, he is Italian”, someone else answer.
”Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” Gandhi
The quote below is from Design Dieter Ram’s. I saw a great exhibition of his work at the Moma today. I loved his design principles. Thinking sustainability. Right ON!
- Good design is innovative.
- Good design makes a product useful.
- Good design is aesthetic.
- Good design makes a product understandable.
- Good design is unobtrusive.
- Good design is honest.
- Good design is long-lasting.
- Good design is thorough down to the last detail.
- Good design is environmentally friendly.
- Good design is as little design as possible.
“What thing about humanity surprises you the most?”
His answer was as follows: “MAN”
Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money,
Then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health.
And then he is so anxious about the future that he doesn’t enjoy the present,
And as a result he doesn’t live in the present or the future
And he lives as if he’s never going to die
And then he dies having never really lived.”